All That Matters Is…

Why do you do what you do? Who are you living for? What are you trying to achieve? When will you be satisfied?

I used to think that my aim in life is to live a happy life, if things did not fit that state I did not do it. I trusted my feelings too much to decide. When I first wrote my vision statement for this blog ‘sfjTheOutcome’ it was ‘live happier deciding better’.

However it didn’t sit well with me and I didn’t belive it completely. Sfj stands for ‘searching for joy’ and joy is achieved through happiness right? I wanted to control my reactions and response to life and I knew wise decisions were the way. But was my ambition in life simply to be happy? Continue reading “All That Matters Is…”


Perfection doesn’t exist and there is no way to achieve it in this life. For a long time I would obsess over getting everything right in order to become perfect. It is such a miserable state to work in, as nothing will ever live up to meet the demands in your head. You will always feel you are not doing enough.

I always wanted to lead by example and be a good role model, because I’ve been working around children. I thought I had to be perfect since their little eyes were watching me and I wanted them to aspire to do great things from observing me. When actually the best way to be a role model is to be real and genuine. Continue reading “Perfect-ish”