All That Matters Is…

Why do you do what you do? Who are you living for? What are you trying to achieve? When will you be satisfied?

I used to think that my aim in life is to live a happy life, if things did not fit that state I did not do it. I trusted my feelings too much to decide. When I first wrote my vision statement for this blog ‘sfjTheOutcome’ it was ‘live happier deciding better’.

However it didn’t sit well with me and I didn’t belive it completely. Sfj stands for ‘searching for joy’ and joy is achieved through happiness right? I wanted to control my reactions and response to life and I knew wise decisions were the way. But was my ambition in life simply to be happy? Continue reading “All That Matters Is…”

Perfect-ish

Perfection doesn’t exist and there is no way to achieve it in this life. For a long time I would obsess over getting everything right in order to become perfect. It is such a miserable state to work in, as nothing will ever live up to meet the demands in your head. You will always feel you are not doing enough.

I always wanted to lead by example and be a good role model, because I’ve been working around children. I thought I had to be perfect since their little eyes were watching me and I wanted them to aspire to do great things from observing me. When actually the best way to be a role model is to be real and genuine. Continue reading “Perfect-ish”

Not Doing Enough, But There Isn’t Anymore I Can Do

Hey everyone, when my plans don’t fall together in the time frame I expected I start to feel defeated; mainly because I don’t know how long I can keep going. Something must have happened to severely delay or there is a roadblock and I get confused. The first thing I think is that it’s my fault, I didn’t work hard enough and I should have … Continue reading Not Doing Enough, But There Isn’t Anymore I Can Do

The Gap Between Expectations and Experience

What I think it would be like and what it actually ends up like is very different. There is usually a large gap between the two points of expectation and experience. High expectations can produce an underwhelming experience; simply because your excitement had created something large in your mind and what was infront of you was fine in size, but not to the vastness you … Continue reading The Gap Between Expectations and Experience

If No One Was Looking Would You Still Feel The Pressure?

Have you ever felt the pressure from watching eyes? Family, friends and even strangers looking at your life; telling you their opinions and advice on what they think it should look like, but mostly just watching to see if you make it. Pressure can come from different sources,Β  it can be good and bad so that’s why I don’t completely hate it, but I don’t … Continue reading If No One Was Looking Would You Still Feel The Pressure?